I love Valentine’s Day. I love everything about it. I love love. It makes me so, so happy.
I say this as a painfully single girl. I have never had a boyfriend on Valentine’s Day and I have never been able to celebrate the day the way that you would traditionally celebrate the day. I’m looking forward to that, I am. Whenever that happens for me. I can’t wait to snuggle up with my partner and have a romantic dinner and then have crazy romantic sex.
That’s not where I’m at right now though but I am not letting that bring me down today. For me, Valentine’s Day is all about love…every kind of love. I like telling my friends and family how much I love them today. This year, I am also focusing on myself. One of my goals for 2019 is to learn how to fall in love with myself and that is what I am going to be talking about today.
So I knew that Valentine’s Day 2019 was going to be a ‘self love‘ day. With that being said, I started the day in my favourite place: my bathtub. I brought together some of my favourites, some salts, a candle, a beautiful bath bomb, and I settled in.
This particular bath bomb is from Lush’s Valentine’s Day range and I adore it. Peaches are my favourite fruit and one of my favourite scents. This one is made with real peaches and it’s everything I love.
I spent about 40 minutes soaking in the tub but once the water started to get cold, I got out. I made myself a homemade latte and then moved to the couch.
In keeping up with the peach theme, I slathered myself with this peach body butter from the Body Shop and then slipped on these fuzzy slippers that I got from Fab Fit Fun a while ago. I love putting a body butter on my feet and then putting on fuzzy socks in the winter. It’s a great way to keep warm but it’s also a really good way to make sure that the body butter can do it’s best work on tired, dry feet.
With the scene set, I put on one of my favourite movies, all about love (Sex and the City) and painted my nails this rose colour (Essie’s In Stitches).
I want to take a slight break from discussing my day to talk to you about sexiness. I think that if you look at a lot of our pop culture and our society in general, sexiness kind of seems like something that’s reserved for women who look like models and are in a relationship but that’s not the case.
I’m 26 and I’m growing into feeling sexy in my own skin. Sex and sexuality is a natural part of being alive for a lot of us. There’s nothing wrong with it. So maybe you’re terminally single and plus sized without a ton of fun hook up stories, like me. I’m starting to accept that there is nothing wrong with that. I love lingerie and I love how I feel when I’m in a pretty bra and underwear set. It’s just for me at this point, no one else. For plus sized girls, I really like Torrid’s line of intimates. They have different styles for a bunch of different tastes.
Also, masturbation is SUPER healthy and everyone should be doing it. There’s still far too much stigma around women making themselves feel good but it’s so good for you. You should know your own body better than anyone else. Believe it or not, Urban Outfitters sells a really solid range of different toys and accessories to help with this.
So, back to my day. For me, spending time with myself is about comfort. I don’t plan on doing a whole lot from here on out. I’m writing this blog post while I sip my coffee and watch movies. Later on, I’ll have a long shower and do an elaborate skin care routine, maybe try to get some reading in. All along the way, I am changing my thought process. I’m super quick to come up with a million negative thoughts about myself but not today. I’m going to look in the mirror and find the things I like.
I hope that you have a great Valentine’s Day. I hope that you love yourself and treat yourself the way you deserve to be treated. Don’t wait for someone to sweep into your life. DIY your own love.