I don’t know about you guys, but I have been in a funk. It’s come and gone but 2018 has been a rough year and lately, I’ve been feeling really down.
It sucks when you feel like this. You have no energy to get up and do stuff but just sort of sitting around is not making anything better. It feels like a really terrible circle of grossness.
I am sick of feeling like this and so today, I knew that I had to make a change. These are a few of the things that help get me going when I really don’t feel like it.
One of the first things I do is make sure that I get out of bed. I’ve got the day off today and I woke up tired, wanting nothing more than to turn over in bed and stay there. I could have spent the entire day there but I knew that come the end of the day, I would feel groggy and I would feel like shit. I know it’s hard. I know that getting up can really fucking suck but I reminded myself of how crappy I would feel and I pushed myself up.
Sometimes, all it takes is the little things. The best advice I can give is to make sure that you break it all down into small steps: just get up and brush your teeth. Simple as that. I got up, I brushed my teeth, and once I managed to do that, I was even able to do a really simple skin care routine.
I have always liked this astringent from Clean and Clear. Sometimes, the thought of cleaning your face with a cleanser and water can seem like a lot but this astringent is just a wipe on product: put it on a cotton round and wipe it around your face. I always feel really clean after using it. After cleaning, I’ll put on a serum, a cream, and an eye cream.
Then I make a cup of coffee to drink while I get dressed. Now, today, I ended up going out but even if you’re going to spend the day at home, my advice is to get dressed. I find that can totally change how I feel in a day if I put the effort into putting on a pair of pants, a bra, an actual daytime outfit. It doesn’t have to be much but it makes me feel better than hanging out in sweats all day. Side note: making your bed can change a lot in your bedroom. You don’t have to clean the whole space, just make your bed and it will feel better.
Once I was dressed, I decided to put on a bit of makeup. Again, it’s not much. Very simple, easy makeup. I was not planning on being beat for the gods today. I threw on a dusting of eyeshadow, eyeliner, mascara, and a nude lip. It’s just about taking that step and doing something for yourself. Putting a small amount of effort in can really help change your mindset.
I didn’t do much, really. I walked 10 minutes downtown, I picked up a Christmas card, and I got some groceries, then I took a cab back home. Getting home, I felt much better than I would have felt if I just stayed at home all morning.
My next step was to put on a load of laundry and make some lunch. While I was doing this, I put on Queer Eye because that always makes me feel good.
Something that always helps for me is making sure that I do something creative. I worked on planning out my blog pots for January and then I started writing this post.
What am I going to do for the rest of the night? Well…it’s my Sunday so I think that from now on, I’ll let myself just relax for a bit. I’ll make something for dinner, I’ll watch a movie or a TV show, I’ll curl up on the couch with a cup of tea. Then I’ll set aside my clothes for work tomorrow, I’ll shower, and I’ll maybe even do a guided meditation. Hopefully, I’ll be able to face my week with a bit of positivity.
All of this is not the answer for everyone. I know that this isn’t going to change everything and I am by no means an expert or a professional. When you’re feeling low like this, however, you need to be tender to yourself. Listen to what your body needs, what it’s asking for, and give it that.
Self care is not selfish.
What do you do when you feel down? What motivates you?